I found this quote by Dallin H. Oaks (“The Desires of Our Hearts,” Ensign, June 1986, 64):
God’s law can assign consequences solely on the basis of our innermost thoughts and desires. There is no uncertainty in the administration of this law. As Ammon taught King Lamoni, God “looketh down upon all the children of men; and he knows all the thoughts and intents of the heart; for by his hand were they all created from the beginning.” (Alma 18:32.)
As an LDS parent, I always figured this to be true, since sometimes I could look at my child and I knew what he or she was thinking of doing, even though nothing was said. But now that I don't believe in the church, should I continue to believe I'll be judged for my thoughts as harshly as if I'd done what I had thought about?
I think that's a raw deal.
I can't help it sometimes if I fantasize about something or someone. And what about dreams that come unbidden while we sleep? Will we be judged for those as well?
What was that quip? Oh, yeah. You can look at the menu, but you just can't eat.