May 14, 2007

Dear SML - Mattman is alive and kickin'

Dear SML,

I know there are probably quite a few bloggers out there in outer blogness wondering what the hell happened to me. A few months ago I put my blog into restricted mode and yes, I could give access, but there's nothing there -- I removed it all. And no, it's not because I went back to the morg. No way!

I left my house (and my marriage) about 3 months ago and subsequently filed for divorce as I wasn't getting reasonable cooperation in terms of what's best for the children in terms of spending time with me. It's all still in the works, so the disappearance of my blog is about a necessary quiet period that goes with it. There's a chance it wouldn't cause a problem, but with the system already being overly stacked against fathers in this country (and especially my state), I can't take any chances.

I really miss all of you in outer blogness. I didn't realize how much support I was getting from it until it was gone. :( I haven't even been able to keep up with reading blogs, but things have almost settled now where I can go back and try to catch up. Hopefully someday soon some of you will start seeing comments from me every now and then.

If any of you have been following my story closely or were in other ways more closely tied to me, you can ask either SML or Sideon for direct contact information for instant messaging or email. I can't handle a flood, but a few of you who are either are in or were in similar situations would be welcome contacts to me right now as I'm having lots of struggles. Being a single father is far from easy, especially as an agnostic, and I'm constantly doubting myself about my decision that this path can and will be better for me and the kids long term. The doubts have so far not been enough to go back to a failed marriage, but still, it's a struggle.

Thanks to everyone who helped support my blog before and in some way helped me find the strength and self-confidence I had lost, so that I could stand up and do what I felt needed to be done. I hope I can get back to blogging sometime in the near future. I don't want to take the chance until after my divorce is final, but I have no idea when that will be -- hopefully sooner rather than later.

-Mattman (from ramblings of a mattman)

Dear Mattman,

Thanks for giving everyone an update and I hope you find your balance soon. Good luck with getting your life on the track you need it to be on. I have faith in you that you can do this. I always admire people who do the difficult thing in order to listen to their own voice and forge their own path toward improving life and finding happiness.

If anyone needs to contact Mattman, or simply wants to wish him well and offer moral support, email me at and I will forward your message to him or give you his email address so you can do so yourself.


Sideon said...

Best of luck, Mattman. I'm glad he sent an update, and many thanks to you, SML, for sharing the news!

Regardless of religious beliefs, agnostic or chest-poundin' Bible (or BoM) thumper, divorce isn't easy for anyone (except Elizabeth Taylor).

C. L. Hanson said...

Thanks for the update!!!

I figured that was what it was -- a blog isn't always the most helpful thing in a custody battle...

We're still thinking of you here in Outer Blogness!!!

Lemon Blossom said...

Yay! I was wondering how you were doing, Mattman. I was thinking just this weekend that I would write a post to you saying that I hope everything is going well. I'm glad to hear things are going ok. I miss you and hope things keep going well for you during this difficult time!

Success Warrior said...

When I was going through my divorce, my ex had spies telling her my every move. I wouldn't have blogged either but I might as well have. Hope it works out for you. It took me a couple years to win custody so it's possible. It's not easy and it's not fun and it's not cheap. I suppose that's enough words of encouragement.

Bull said...

Good luck Matt. I miss your advice on my running :)

Anonymous said...

Well I miss Matt's blog and I wish him all the best. It looks like Simeon may need to send you a letter as well.

Freckle Face Girl said...

I hope everything works out for you!

Robert said...


This is a comment out of context with this thread, but I wanted to be sure you saw my reply. I'm glad you got a kick out of the conversation in posts Julie and I shared. It was fun trying to brighten her day. Hopefully you can see I'm not a stodgy TBM but I do have convictions. Anyway, I only saw your comment much later and wanted to say I was glad you got a laugh from it. Take care.

Bull said...

What happened to Simeon? I hadn't checked back in a couple of weeks and all of a sudden his blog drops off the edge of the earth.