tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32588204.post116716278116297863..comments2023-10-21T05:05:55.779-05:00Comments on Thoughts by Sister Mary Lisa: The rest, as they say, is history.Sister Mary Lisahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00642154849765529070noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32588204.post-86099282045091340502010-11-19T03:01:53.964-06:002010-11-19T03:01:53.964-06:00In principle, a good happen, support the views of ...In principle, a good happen, support the views of the authorviagra onlinehttp://www.aiesec.fi/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32588204.post-49641377463490111722010-06-13T16:39:05.148-05:002010-06-13T16:39:05.148-05:00Hi. I stumbled across your blog, and i wanted to l...Hi. I stumbled across your blog, and i wanted to let you know I've been there. I can't believe someone else has too. Sometimes, I felt like I must have been the only girl pregnant at BYU. Thankfully, my now husband and I were able to work out our difference and marry two weeks before I gave birth. When I read what you wrote about adoption, I felt the same way. everyone told me I was being "selfish" for wanting to keep my baby, but I couldn't give her away. I met with an adoptive couple and was physically nauseated the entire time. It was wrong. I am so glad you kept your son. It seems like you are an excellent mother...and writer :)Celiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03390447124868968342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32588204.post-15419737330297706072007-11-19T23:17:00.000-06:002007-11-19T23:17:00.000-06:00Bravo, thank you for sharing the second part. I wa...Bravo, thank you for sharing the second part. I was wondering if you had told him or not. I really do admire your courage!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32588204.post-90536379957763360762007-04-16T16:45:00.000-05:002007-04-16T16:45:00.000-05:00I feel as if everything you wrote down was a direc...I feel as if everything you wrote down was a direct link - your inner voice spilling the emotion right out on the page for all of us to experience. Not to read, but to re-live. <BR/><BR/>Heart-wrenching and sad, but not bitter, not angry, just resigned, as if you gained strength after the initial devastating discovery. <BR/><BR/>Well done. Well written. Well lived.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32588204.post-1168321826569720072007-01-08T23:50:00.000-06:002007-01-08T23:50:00.000-06:00I must say that your writing is blessed with a nat...I must say that your writing is blessed with a natural flair! I've been reading all your old posts, and I just want to say that you're a very strong woman! Kudos for weathering everything with so much élan!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32588204.post-1167855096068380862007-01-03T14:11:00.000-06:002007-01-03T14:11:00.000-06:00Thanks for sharing SML. I've appreciated reading ...Thanks for sharing SML. <BR/><BR/>I've appreciated reading this post and the honor code post. Your description of what happened in both posts is well written and stunning. kudos to you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32588204.post-1167766589240780632007-01-02T13:36:00.000-06:002007-01-02T13:36:00.000-06:00Fantastic writing, Lisa. Amazing.I pity Mr Chile w...Fantastic writing, Lisa. Amazing.<BR/><BR/>I pity Mr Chile who missed out on being part of his child growing up. <BR/>You were telling him for HIS sake, but he didn't get that. His loss, completely.<BR/><BR/>Hope you had a great time during Christmas and New Year's!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32588204.post-1167595922347709072006-12-31T14:12:00.000-06:002006-12-31T14:12:00.000-06:00Yeah, Jessica's post is pure exploit advertising. ...Yeah, Jessica's post is pure exploit advertising. If you look closely, you can find no indication whatsoever that she actually read your post. Looks like a generic form-letter post comment to fool people with a little flattery.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32588204.post-1167559316680531372006-12-31T04:01:00.000-06:002006-12-31T04:01:00.000-06:00Wow, Lisa. That was very powerful.It's strange to...Wow, Lisa. That was very powerful.<BR/><BR/>It's strange to be in the same category of kids who constantly urged their mothers to get a divorce. You learn a lot about the dark side of human relationships very quickly.<BR/><BR/>Though there's a lot of individual points in what you wrote to appreciate, there are two that shone out to me as unusual insights.<BR/><BR/>First, it's very compassionate of you to think about what kind men who find themselves bishops must go through. I have not really thought about them that way, instead focusing on their key role in the maintenance of the big lie. It's a very deep insight that rings very true. Human beings are complex creatures.<BR/><BR/>Second, perhaps more superficially, your description of labor contractions was stunning. It was very simple and short, but I have *never* read or heard anything that so made how it must feel come alive for me so much as what you just wrote. The pain, I know -- I experienced that with my poor dear wife and know the pain is beyond my imagining -- but I never really read anything that gave me a visceral understanding of the unintentional, impossible?-to-control nature of the contractions. This may, of course, only reveal my ignorance of physiology and childbirth, but you taught me a little something quite well.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, great job! I am really enjoying getting to know you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32588204.post-1167423692922957362006-12-29T14:21:00.000-06:002006-12-29T14:21:00.000-06:00If you'd like some help in making these posts into...If you'd like some help in making these posts into a book, I'd love to help. <BR/><BR/>You can email me at KromtheKreator@gmail.com <BR/><BR/>I think it would make a find edition in the Seagull books store ;-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32588204.post-1167353210218187952006-12-28T18:46:00.000-06:002006-12-28T18:46:00.000-06:00Wow this was a great story. I am amazed at your co...Wow this was a great story. I am amazed at your courage.<BR/><BR/>I am usually into telling the single woman to adopt out the child because they are usually too immature to raise a child. In your case, I think you knew what to do... But, it sounds like your helper (the man in question) was definitely immature.<BR/><BR/>Glad you found a great guy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32588204.post-1167338548077879022006-12-28T14:42:00.000-06:002006-12-28T14:42:00.000-06:00Christy, thank you. Jessica, you'll get zero traf...Christy, thank you. <BR/><BR/>Jessica, you'll get zero traffic from me if I can't click on your blog. I suspect you're just spam I should delete...<BR/><BR/>Rachel, it's hard but worth it, isn't it? Also, Mr. Chile was not LDS. I don't know if he cared about appearances or not. <BR/><BR/>CL Hanson, thanks for reading. I love it when I see comments from you.<BR/><BR/>Sideon, my looking into adoption for my son was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. If I had done it, it would have been a decision made purely out of love for my baby, because I wanted to give him the best life he could have...and I would have been doing the selfless thing if I had known for sure that a life with me was going to be worse than a loving home with two parents who could provide for him better than me. It was way more difficult than I described it here. I don't know if I could even describe it well if I tried. Only someone who's been there knows for sure what it feels like.<BR/><BR/>Maybe someday you'll get a chance to really discuss it in detail with your birth mother.<BR/><BR/>JOOM, I'm sure that it's how you treat each other that counts, not the adoption status. Thanks for sharing that. It'd be interesting to read anything you might post about that (hint hint)!<BR/><BR/>Cele, I don't know about "awe inspiring," but thank you just the same. I appreciate it. And yes, Eric is an amazing person, and I love him with all my heart. He saved me more than a few times.<BR/><BR/>Krom, a juicy Mormon Soap Opera? That'd be interesting if the church ever started publishing soaps. Maybe I should approach headquarters with my (your) idea. And I'm pretty sure we never kissed on the lips, did we, Eric? So...I'll just relay the message that Krom wants to kiss Eric right on the lips. It might help if you'd tell us if you're a guy or girl first.....<BR/><BR/>Bull, you're right. I did use birth control (condoms) but in the end, I was one of the unlucky ones who gets the biggest consequence for my actions. And that is where young people in the church flounder, as you said. I couldn't just worry about survival, I also had to worry about what others would think of me and how I'd be judged, in this life and the next. All I can do to change this is talk openly with my own kids about their lives and sexuality and teach them wisdom before the fact. Thanks for your supportive comments.<BR/><BR/>Doug, thank you for the compliments, as always.Sister Mary Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00642154849765529070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32588204.post-1167330399144522502006-12-28T12:26:00.000-06:002006-12-28T12:26:00.000-06:00I really enjoyed the two posts, but I have to say ...I really enjoyed the two posts, but I have to say they troubled me. I think that that there is wisdom in TSCC's preaching of abstinence before marriage due to the possibility of unwanted pregnancies, but I hate all of the guilt that they surround it with that seems to almost encourage irresponsibility or lack of realism or discretion with regards to sexuality. It doesn't teach anything positive about sex at all and leaves its members on their own to sort it out themselves.<BR/><BR/>I don't know what I'm rambling on about. It was a touching story that made me sad at the difficult and unplanned disruption of your life and happy that in the end it worked out as a blessing in your life.<BR/><BR/>Cheers.Bullhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01343937101221163598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32588204.post-1167290482039673562006-12-28T01:21:00.000-06:002006-12-28T01:21:00.000-06:00That was like a juicy Mormon Soap Opera. Awesome! ...That was like a juicy Mormon Soap Opera. Awesome! <BR/><BR/>I think you should write a book. These stories are so dang good, Sister Mary Lisa. I'm looking forward to the next chapter. <BR/><BR/>Oh, and give that Eric a big kiss on the lips for me; he sounds like a really great person.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32588204.post-1167260548613689002006-12-27T17:02:00.000-06:002006-12-27T17:02:00.000-06:00Wow, Lisa, thank you for sharing. It makes me feel...Wow, Lisa, thank you for sharing. It makes me feel like you're a kindred spirit of sorts. Girl you have a lot of strenght inside of you and the fact that you shared your story will help so many others, on levels you can barely conceive. You are awe inspiring. Thank you.<BR/><BR/>btw, I'm glad you had Eric - I'm thinking it made all the difference in the world to you.Celehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11471318342104018488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32588204.post-1167247454976824412006-12-27T13:24:00.000-06:002006-12-27T13:24:00.000-06:00I am sooo glad you kept him. Mr. SML seems like a ...I am sooo glad you kept him. Mr. SML seems like a godsend. I have a Mr.SML in my life...my stepfather. He offered to adopt me when I was 7 and I said no. I told him, "I like knowing you love me just the way I am" Hindsight is 20/20 and I wish I would have said yes, but I still like knowing he loves me just like I was his biologically! <BR/>Thanks for making me cry...with joyful recollections!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32588204.post-1167240465464054492006-12-27T11:27:00.000-06:002006-12-27T11:27:00.000-06:00This one hit hard. I had no idea where this wild ...This one hit hard. I had no idea where this wild roller-coaster would end up when I first started reading. <BR/><BR/>I was adopted from birth. I knew from an early age that I'd been adopted - my parents told me when I was around 6 years old. When I call myself "bastard" I can say it in jest or to add emphasis the same way I can say "homo" or "fag," but I know I go ballistic if others use any of the above terms. I'm rambling...<BR/><BR/>Your story made me realize that there is so much I don't know about my birthmother, about what she went through in the late 60's and about how my idiot birthfather didn't even know I existed until I was almost 30 years old. <BR/><BR/>Christy summed it up best: I'm stunned.Sideonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00563675498159890372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32588204.post-1167235117375390432006-12-27T09:58:00.000-06:002006-12-27T09:58:00.000-06:00Wow, what an ordeal!!!That's great that you had th...Wow, what an ordeal!!!<BR/><BR/>That's great that you had the courage to hang in there as a single mom -- despite the obstacles -- and provide a loving home for your son.C. L. Hansonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12698855413639518095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32588204.post-1167201378514003972006-12-27T00:36:00.000-06:002006-12-27T00:36:00.000-06:00I can so relate to all of your emotions during tha...I can so relate to all of your emotions during that time. The support of your family is invaluable during such an emotional upheaval as a pregnancy. Especially when you are alone. <BR/>My mom was my rock when I was pregnant with D and to this day I tell her as much as I can that I love her.<BR/>Mr. Chile probably knew that when you said that you didn't need anything that he was off the hook and probably never said anything to anyone about it lest he look like a sinner.<BR/>The LDS church IS all about appearances and the illusion of perfection.<BR/>I have mad respect for you girl!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32588204.post-1167197931958761412006-12-26T23:38:00.000-06:002006-12-26T23:38:00.000-06:00I'm stunned. Wow. Your writing makes me feel lik...I'm stunned. Wow. Your writing makes me feel like I was right there with you, I could so clearly identify with your emotions even though I've not experienced the same thing.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for taking the time to write this out. Much love headed your way!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com